How to deal with fear 101

Unless you have the super power to read the future, please DON'T ignore this post.

Ever been so scared to make a decision? That you get this numbing feeling of not knowing what to do. Should you just forget about it and move on? Or will you live to regret not making the decision? Most self-help books and 'gurus' will tell you to act on your fears, or take that leap of faith, or don't hold back only to regret it, or stop analyzing and just do it!

Well, despite the passion to just go ahead and DO IT, I think as a human being, I deserve the right to let fear hold me back. People rarely admit to being scared about something, mostly because we're told that fear keeps us from getting the best out of life. Don't get me wrong though, the grass may or may not be greener on the other side of fear. My point is, scientifically speaking, fear is our brain's way of telling us to watch out for a threat ahead. Now, if fear alerts us of any impending dangers, who are we not to listen?

I've always loved to overthink, when necessary. Today is one of those necessary times. I think, when faced with an overwhelming fear to do something, don't do it UNTIL; the brain does a thorough investigation into what lurks ahead and the heart is willing to follow the brain into the unknown. If we are honest with ourselves, the only thing we fear is the idea of not knowing what happens next once a decision is taken.

To allow our fears means:

Think of all possible outcomes ( get creative!)
Pick the one that makes most sense (the less scarier one )
Prepare for any unknown outcomes (life is full of surprises!)
Make a decision ( take your time, unless it's a matter of life and death!)
More decisions will come your way ( see, not so scary,it's just life)

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